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Mark McGuinness

Excellent blog Garr, and a very interesting post.

At the risk of introducing a non sequitur :), when dealing with tough questions from an audience, I often think "Win the argument, lose the audience" - i.e. if you simply rely on logic and facts to prove the other person "wrong", you risk making them look stupid and that can alienate the audience. That's not to say you should abandon your convictions, but I always try to handle these situations in a way that includes and validates others' viewpoints.

There was obviously a lot of history between Rumsfeld and the journalists – the relationship had clearly deteriorated into a battle of wills. Once they had got to that stage, maybe Rumsfeld did the best he could – but if we looked at the history of interaction between him and the press, there were probably many other paths he could have taken to build a more collaborative relationship with them.

Most of us aren’t usually presenting in a life-or-death context like the Iraq situation, which should make it easier to handle disagreement. I always assume there is a possibility of establishing a collaborative relationship with the audience. It’s OK for us to disagree, but that doesn’t mean we can’t respect each other, or even have some fun together.

Here are some approaches that work for me:

1. I try to find some common ground with the questioner. Acknowledge the validity of the question, and try to get a sense of what's driving it - "That's a really important question, am I right in thinking you're concerned about XYZ here?". If you get a "yes" to that question, the two of you have at least agreed on something – it may seem insignificant, but it can change the tone of the conversation.

2. If I don’t agree, with them, I’ll explain why, and give the evidence I’ve based my opinion on, but still leave room for an alternative viewpoint.

3. If I’m really taken by surprise or don’t know the answer, it’s best to be honest and say so. “Thanks for your question, I’d never considered applying this stuff to that situation, I’ll need to think about the implications. Can I think about it and get back to you? I’ll give you my answer in this afternoon’s session.”

I find people respond much better to this approach than trying to bluff it or evade the question. Of course this won’t work if the question is about basic stuff that is central to your presentation subject – those are the things we really SHOULD prepare!

But we can’t know everything about everything - if the question really is a non sequitur or about something that is marginal to your subject, audiences can recognise that too. To make it clear that I’m not avoiding the question, I always arrange to continue the discussion in private or (if possible) give the audience my answer at a future presentation.

4. I also try to incorporate the disagreement. Some people aren’t trying to be difficult or disruptive by interjecting with an opposite point of view – it’s how their mind works, and how they learn. As soon as you say one thing, they think “Yes but what about the opposite?”. So I actually ask them to “let me know if they have any other questions/concerns about that”.

Even if they are trying to be obstructive, this can take the wind out of their sails a bit – since I’ve invited them to “give the alternative view” they are co-operating with me if they continue to do so…

Those usually work for me – you can’t please all the people all of the time, but at least these approaches give us options other than locking horns.

Michael Vanderdonk

This post is much like cherry jam... :-)

And further on the topic of argument and persuasion in a speech or presentation. I'm currently reading:
http://www.randomhouse.com.au/WEB_ASP/ttle_detail.asp?isbn=1740513460
And the author, a retired QC, has many tips and points on preparation, response, thinking on your feet, dealing with interruptions, persuasion, and much much more....

dharana

That was a really insightful post, Garr. I have always loved debating and the links related to Logic and Argument that you gave are really revealing to me.

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alex

Excellent post and beautiful blog.

Thank you so much!

rick

You've completely missed it on this one. The ability to evade moronic questions is one of a politician's most valuable skills. You should have described how skillful Rumsfeld was in responding to a "have you stopped beating your wife," question. Instead your political biases led you to assail Rumsfeld. Sad.

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